Sex in the suburbs
Is anyone out there achieving the national average?

According to research, most Australian couples are doing "it" at least 2-3 times per week - in the bedroom, hall cupboard, bathroom etc…

The busiest place in our house is the kitchen. There is no sex going on (currently) in this room, but the running of the fast-growing business called family is managed via, talking, arguing, early morning through midnight activities of timetable management, homework, cooking, cleaning, as well as the occasional cry from overwhelming exhaustion.

According to mums answering a Sex Poll on - we actually wouldn't mind swinging from chandeliers, a LOT of the time - but a whopping 53 per cent of us are just too tired and worn out after a day of work (at home or at a paid job) with the remaining "awake" hours left juggling the rest of the family's needs.

So what do we really want and need to enjoy Sex more - and more often?

According to the 1,546 women and mothers who answered the motherInc. Sex Poll

  • 32 per cent (one in three women) want more romance.
  • 44 per cent want more excitement.
  • 44 per cent are having difficulty communicating with their partners about how they feel.

While one in three Australian mothers said they were concerned about sex in their relationship, they didn't feel happy talking about it.

The cameo appearance-style sex life, which can creep into the average work/family/life day can be improved by communicating - how you feel….not necessarily just about sex, but life in general, the home, the family and what is happening or not in your world?

Do you need more support at work and home?

Is your husband/partner equally sharing some of the more tedious (any) tasks around the house? Are you asking or allowing him to help, even though his method might be not "exactly" what you would do?

From where I stand, most modern mums (full time at home or in the paid workforce) never sit down. Dad enjoys a standing ovation as he cruises into this new-found fantastic metro-Dad role….going to work, bouncing bub on his knee in his non-paid work time or helping out with sports and more on the weekends with older kids. Mum does the full-time mum-thing, then goes to work (or works all day at home) and then keeps on working the 24/7 shift as the home chores and family needs continue to pile up. The expanding demographic of stay-at-home dads, may also find they just want an aspirin, a beer and a lie-down at the end of the day or, they may be lucky enough to enjoy a "break" when mum returns home, to operate the 6pm to 6am shift. No applause is expected and none is given.
Yet - an inevitable fatigue and resentment begins to erode at the former romantic "balance" which existed pre-kids.

Resentment is not a great aphrodisiac.

Take time-out to just "be together". Take time to talk, enjoy a walk, a bath or even a spa together to talk about the day. Having a spa doesn't need to lead to a marathon sexual adventure if you are just too tired. Getting into a pattern of having valuable time together, nurturing the romantic and physical side of our relationships is essential.

Make definite plans for regular weekends away.

The extreme time-management dedicated to planning children's activities, sports and extra academic activities for after school and weekend commitments, doesn't appear to be used enough toward planning valuable time together, weekends away or a holiday sans the kids.

Former Prime Minister John Howard was concerned about Australia's decreasing birthrate. Perhaps if we raised the "bonking" average , we might even solve this national dilemma.  If not - at least we can have a good time trying!